It seems that it is no longer possible for me to post on this blog without some commenter, often an anonymous one, telling me "that's not funny" or "I used to like you better when". [. . .] That's very emotionally draining to me. Unless you have spent the kind of time and effort that a blogger does to post daily (or nearly so), you can't imagine how unmotivating it is to be heckled nearly daily. Some may be clapping for you, but it still stings just as hard when the tomato hits you.
I'm not sure why people do this. If I don't care for a blog or it no longer interests me, I simply stop reading it. If you wish bloggers to post particular types of things, praise them lavishly when they do. Dissing them when what they post doesn't tickle your particular fancy that day serves only to move them one step closer to quitting.
Which I am. I am walking away from this blog for one month. I'll return in one month at which point I'll decide whether I want to start it up again or not. That should give those who don't like what I post time to break the habit of showing up daily to tell me so; they can move on to ruin someone else's enjoyment of another blog. Perhaps they can also ponder why there are fewer and fewer blogs left for them to criticize.
I know exactly how Scipio feels. It is unmotivating. Most of us who do blogs just want an outlet to talk about things that interest us, to bring things to the attention of other people, to share things, to vent. And every once in a while, you get a worthy debate (like I did yesterday with my post about Britney Spears). But a lot of times it's just people being snarky because they don't like the woman you put up pictures of (and then judging your entire sense of aesthetics based on that) or because they think their taste in movies is so much better than yours. And that's how people are; it would be unrealistic to think that opening myself up in a forum like this isn't going to bring me some of that. What's annoying is that a lot of people don't ever seem to feel the need to comment unless they completely disagree with you about something. If it leads to something interesting, that's great. If it's just some snarky quip, it's incredibly irritating. If it's open hostility, that's completely disheartening.
On the other side, I do get a lot of compliments and an incredible amount of support. Most of the people who come here don't seem to be under the incredibly mistaken impression that I write my blog so that they can approve what I post. Those are my favorites. A lot of my readers are friendly and supportive and a blast to have comment. No one wants to do their blog in a void, uncertain of whether or not anyone is even looking. But I always think of a post Angela put up several months ago, in which she said "I don't write my blog for you."
A lot of people seem to be going through this. Rudeness is tiresome. I hate that it's affecting bloggers that I like.
The blogosphere is going to be a lonely place one day.